What should I do? I am in love with a women other than my wife.?

Your situation sucks! Cheating is just not an option not only will you feel horrible (at least I hope you would) but you would be hurting someone you have loved for so many years. If is so important try spicing things up. Get an adult bedroom game, or start slow by giving her a back rub and then going for it. Be honest about your need for !